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. HOW TO RESPOND TO SOMEONE WHO HURTS YOU.
When someone hurts us we usually tend to respond in a way as to hurt that person twice as much and this vicious cycle proper gates. This can destroys human relationship what then is the Islamic ruling in such circumstances?
Islam has given us the right to defend ourselves against one who hurts us and a part of the sharia ruling is to punish wrong doers. At the same time, Islam is built upon the foundation of justice and calls for forgiveness. Allah (SWT) says in Surahh Nahl V.126 and if you punish (your enemy) then punish them with the like of that which you were affected. But if you endure patiently, verily it is better for you. In Surah As-Shura, V.40
The recompense for an evil is an evil like thereof, but whoever forgives and makes reconciliation, his reward is due from Allah, verily he like not the transgressors, and Allah (SWT) has revealed in same Shura V.39 and those who when an oppressive wrong is done to them they take their rights - hence taking one’s right in this context should not be considered as bad. Regarding these 2 verses Al-Khutubi said that there are 2 types of wrong doers i.e. one who is an evil person and hurts everyone. For such a person - Ibrahmi An Nakkaiy said that one should takes one right and punish such a person so that he may give up such a bad behavior. The 2nd type of evildoer is someone who rarely hurts people and he confess his/her mistake and asks for forgiveness and for such a person Allah (SWT) said in Surah Al-Baqarah V.237 (later part). And it is better to forgive and forgiveness is nearer to Al-Tawqa. (Purely and rightoussness).
In Surah Nur. V.22 (2nd part) Let them pardon and forgive. Do you not love that Allah should forgive you? And Allah is off forgiving most merciful. In a Hadith given Tirmidhi. Aiysha (RAA) narrated that a man sat in front of Prophet (PBUH) and said I have 2 slaves who are disobeying and accuse them for lying and being dishonest & unfaithful. I am screaming at them and hitting them so what is my situation in this mistake. The Prophet (PBUH) said if their bad deeds equal yours then you do not lose anything but if their bad deeds exceed yours then you will benefit. However, if your bad deeds exceed their mistakes then you will stand to lose. Then the man went aside and started to cry and the Prophet (PBUH) said don’t you read in the book of Allah: “And we shall setup balances of justice on the day of resurrection, then none will be dealt with unjustly in any thing. And if there be the weight of a mustard seed, we will bring it. And sufficient are we as rectoners. Surah Al-Anbiya V:47.
